All posts tagged: feelings

Not Just a Good Idea. The Golden Rule is THE Idea.

You can’t teach calculus to a chimpanzee.  So just share your banana. – Jon Racheal I’ve never quite heard the Golden Rule expressed this way but it does have a certain je ne sais quoi that makes it very memorable.  However I think we better exemplify this one: Whoever has the gold makes the rule. – Johnny Hart As we go through life we go through stages. In infancy we are grateful for everything given to us. It’s literally the first time we saw colors, tasted food, heard sounds. And by virtue of novelty we are thankful for those things. As we get older though we start to feel like we are owed those experiences and things. And whatever or whomever gets in our way of gets our wrath. I think the Brothers Grimm told this very well in the story “The Old Man and His Grandson.” The story goes there once was an old man who lived with his son’s family. As he got older, his eyesight got worse and his own hands started …

Will You Allow Your Kingdom To Tumble?

Have you played the game Jenga before? Essentially, it’s a tower of blocks and the objective of the game is to remove a block, placing it on the top of the tower without knocking the tower over. The first couple of moves are easy because the integrity of the structure is still in tact, but as the game progresses it gets more and more difficult. There is usually a point in the game where I scream, “There’s not a move! If I move anything, everything will fall and I’ll lose the game. Tell me what to do!” I struggle with insecurity. My mind is constantly asking, “How am I going to mess it up this time?” It doesn’t matter what it is… a message I’m preparing, an event I’m organizing, or a conversation I lead. I walk on egg shells so I don’t upset someone or shift their view of me. I don’t want the Jenga tower of my life to fall. I don’t want to move the wrong block and have my life collapse. …

Your Story was Designed for Victory in Jesus!

Nearly 30 years later, I still remember the day like it was yesterday. I remember it was quite warm and it hadn’t rained for days. I remember the taste of the hot peppers and the feeling of the branches against my skin. It was the first time I was ever physically bullied. As a middle schooler, I was quite socially awkward. I was still trying to learn how to mesh with my peers. It had been a difficult few months. It was the end of the school day, and my friends were playing a game I had no desire to be involved in, seeing who could eat the most hot peppers. When they realized I was not going to participate willingly, they decided to ensure I did. Before I knew what was happening, I was being held down and force-fed hot peppers. This was not my idea of a good time. Amidst their laughing, I was able to push myself away and make a dash for my bike. I dove through a bush to reach …

Sure You Can, But Should You?

The phrase, “Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should” can be applied to so many areas of life. Just because I can eat ice cream for breakfast, doesn’t mean I should. Just because I can stay up all night watching Netflix, doesn’t mean I should. Just because I can buy that shiny new thing, doesn’t mean I should. We might have the right to do something, but that doesn’t make it right. If you have attended a Southern Hills service, you have probably heard someone mention Galatians 2:20: My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me. So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. As a Christ follower, we are called to crucify ourselves and our desires for the sake of the Gospel. We ought to give up our rights and demonstrate it’s no longer about us and what makes us happy, but it’s about honoring God with …

How To Have a Great Marriage

Marriage, as Paul says in Ephesians 5:32, is “a great mystery.” Yeah… we know. He goes on to say, “but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one.” I think it is interesting when we inside the church google the best gift to buy at Valentines or the best place to take my wife on vacation for our anniversary or what gift a wife can give to celebrate his manhood. We want quick fixes for a great marriage. You, like me, may have a book with advice like leaving a rose everyday on the counter for your wife, or telling your husband how attractive a shirt makes him look as he leaves in the morning. But where do these things leave us on being one in the way Christ and His church are one? I think advice like this leaves us thinking we are the ones who can create the type of closeness referred to by Paul. We seem to think “two are united into one” has everything to do …

Search For Truth in A Fog of Fatigue

Hell begins the day God grants you the vision to see all that you could have done, should have done, and would have done… but did not do. – Johann Wolfgang Not too long ago I got a new Study Bible; kind of a fresh start and exploring a different translation. At the front, on the first blank white page all Bibles seem to have, I felt prompted to start a list. I wrote at the top of the page “Men After God’s Own Heart.” The first name which belongs on this list is David (see 1 Samuel 13:14, Acts 13:22). But he hasn’t made it on there yet, simply because I haven’t made it to his story yet. I wanted to jot the names down as I came to them, recognizing those who stand out in His story as being chasers and seekers of God’s identity and purpose. Men who desire His thoughts, adopt His will as their own, and are in friendship with Him. (I’ve got four names on the list so far.) …

Are Your Feelings Lying To You?

How many of us have found ourselves wanting to do what feels right? I have. Hollywood has taught us to “follow your heart,” but scripture says, “The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?” (Jeremiah 17:9). So what do we do with all these feelings we have, especially when a big decision is on the line? Let’s take a quick look at the story of King Saul following his feelings in 1 Samuel 13. Saul hadn’t been king long and was preparing the Israelite army for battle against the Philistines. Saul could sense the fear setting in among his troops and they were scattering. Time was running out. The battle was near. However, Saul wouldn’t do anything without God’s blessing. Earlier, Saul was given a command from the prophet and priest, Samuel, to wait until Samuel showed up to offer the burnt offering and peace offering to receive God’s blessing. Seeing his troops fearful and time running out, Saul took matters into his …