Author: Nicole Jones

4 Ways to Improve Your Marriage in the Bedroom

  There have been countless blogs, articles, and books written on the subject of sex, a small portion of which I have even read. But interviewing these couples, there are four principles I think we all need to be reminded of and can start applying today. Start with friendship. These couples laughed a lot together. Like… a lot! Before we even “popped the question” they were goofing around together. The husband would crack a joke and the wife would giggle, often throwing a playful, flirty punch to the shoulder. Some of the couples referenced how they interact throughout the day, using their breaks at work to call each other or meeting for lunch. My intention for asking what they liked to do together was just to get them talking, but I learned a lot from their answers. Even in their busy lives, they made time for each other; their relationship was a priority. What about you? Are you continuing to build a friendship with your spouse? There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life …

3 Ways to be Intentional on Monday

Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. – 1 John 3:18 A few months ago we did a series called “I love Mondays.”  Let’s be honest… loving Mondays isn’t easy.  In fact, it almost seems human nature to despise Mondays. The weekend is over and it’s “back to the grind.”  We drag ourselves out of bed after hitting snooze far too many times.  We roll in right at 9:00 AM to an overwhelming list of things to do, a messy desk, a disgruntled boss, and the same mundane routine. Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. – Romans 12:2 Let’s intentionally do on Mondays. First and foremost, intentionally be positive on Mondays!  When we think about Mondays as I described above, no wonder we hate them! Philippians 2:14-15 says, …

You Can Change Your Heart With Your Posture

A few years ago, my husband read several books on the subject of body language and still has this incredible ability to read people just by observing them. He can tell what you think about an idea just by how you stand during a conversation. Our Lead Pastor will tell you it’s easier to speak to a group of people who are smiling, shaking their heads in agreement, and returning eye contact.  When everyone has glazed over eyes and crossed arms, you quickly pick up on the “you’re boring” message. I prefer to sleep on my right side, facing the edge of the bed. A few years ago I noticed because of our sleeping arrangements, every night I would physically put my back to Corey and some nights I was doing the same in my heart.  Now, I intentionally fall asleep facing my husband because I know my body language communicates just as much as my words.  In his book Love Does, Bob Goff writes, “Something about the hard wiring that God gave each of us links …

The Kind of Love That Shows Up

When asked to elevate one law of the Old Testament above all others, Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment” (Matthew 22:36-38). Jesus had a way of taking things a step further and added, “A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments” (Matthew 22:39-40). But He didn’t stop there either.  On the night of Passover while in the Upper Room with the twelve disciples, Jesus said: Dear children, I will be with you only a little longer. And as I told the Jewish leaders, you will search for me, but you can’t come where I am going.  So now I am giving you a new commandment: Love each other. Just as I have loved you, you should love each other.  Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples. – John 35:33-35 A new command. …

How is Your Monday Different Because of Sunday?

On Monday are you thinking about Sunday? Probably not. My Monday revolves around Sunday.  I have meetings all day where we evaluate Sunday, share wins, and consider what we could have done differently.  Then we look to the next Sunday, making adjustments based on our evaluations and confirming everything is covered. My Monday is all about Sunday. But if I’m honest, I don’t always bring my Sunday into my Monday. Sure, I talk about what I did and what I’m going to do, but I don’t really talk about what  God did and what I hope God continues to do. I talk about Sunday, but Sunday doesn’t always impact my heart on Monday and my teammates probably wouldn’t tell you they know I’ve been in the presence of Christ. I need to be more intentional about bringing my Sunday into my Monday.  How about you?  On Monday, can the people you work with tell you’ve been in the presence of God and with the family of God?  Can your kids tell it’s a little easier for you this …

This Week For Sunday

Has God’s grace changed you? When someone encounters God’s grace, it totally changes the DNA of their heart. Consider the story of Zacchaeus found in Luke 19:1-10.  Jesus comes to town and chooses to personally visit a chief tax collector known to be a cheat.  We don’t know much about their time together, but clearly it changed Zacchaeus.  He professes that he will give half of his wealth to the poor and return to those he cheated four times the amount. That’s what happens when we look in the eyes of grace; we are changed at our very core. Not to say that we are now perfect; far from it.  But we are transformed, made new.  When we accept Christ, we receive the Holy Spirit and as Paul says, “My old self has been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me…” (Galatians 2:20). If you call yourself a Christ-follower and you’re going about life like you always have, wrestling with the same temptations and wallowing in the same sin, I urge you …

This Week For Sunday

I’m sure you’ve heard of selective hearing and maybe you’ve even been accused of it.  I think at times we all only hear what we want to hear and tune everything else out.  I’ve been thinking about this concept a lot over the past week and have concluded that people are just generally selective. If I stroll up to a beach with seaweed all over the place, there’s no way I’m getting in the water.  But wrap that seaweed around a piece of fish with some rice and spicy mayo… I’m all about it! If you roll up a bunch of paper and throw it out your car window, it’s called litter.  But put “newspaper” on the top and supposedly you can leave it at the end of my driveway. Watching fail videos of people falling is hilarious!…  Until you’re the person busting your tail bone. See, we’re selective. My brother in law has a saying: “Same same, but different.”  We can look at the same situation but select a different response depending on which side of the fence …

This Week For Sunday

Thousands of years before Christ was born, the prophet Isaiah wrote: He was oppressed and treated harshly, yet he never said a word. He was led like a lamb to the slaughter. And as a sheep is silent before the shearers, he did not open his mouth. (Isaiah 53:7) When they arrested Jesus, He willingly submitted.  He didn’t head for the hills and hide in a cave or put up a fight.  He gave himseld over to his accusers, being fully aware of God’s will and his future.  On trial, He didn’t offer a defense.  He remained silent and humble.  As He walked the streets with a beam across His shoulders, He didn’t complain under the weight, beg for mercy, or drag His feet.  And when they nailed Him to the cross, He didn’t resist.  He didn’t pull back his arm or flail His feet.  He willingly laid down His life. This Sunday, we’re singing “Worthy of Your Name,” which says: You did not speak, You made no sound You died for Your accusers As Your blood fell to …

This Week For Sunday

It’s easy to point to City Station and see that God is on the move in a big way.  He is doing an amazing work through our church and in this community.  Over the past few months, we’ve had a lot of questions about City Station and it’s progress.  Elbow deep in planning, I’ve found it’s also easy to forget that City Station isn’t the only thing God is doing. This past weekend I traveled to Tennessee with Corey to visit his mentor and provide coaching for other pastors.  While there, I attended a woman’s Bible Study with his mentor’s wife.  While mingling I met a woman from a “random” country where I happen to have missionary friends.  We talked about their work, the need for Christ in the country, and our shared heart for the people.  I was reminded of what God is doing on the other side of the world and was taken back by how He orchestrated this chance meeting. I also met a college student who, like me, was there for the …

This Week For Sunday

Two weeks ago we introduced a new song called “Worthy of Your Name.”  The second verse says: No ear had heard, no eye had seen The image of the Father Until heaven came to live with me A rescue like no other In the beginning, God walked with man in the garden.  Adam knew God’s voice and was so familiar with God, he knew what God sounded like when God moved in the garden (see Genesis 3).  But because of man’s sin, God had to separate Himself from man.  For thousands of years, while God was still involved, He was distant and at times completely silent. Then the Father sent the Son and suddenly God was near.  Man could touch Him, laugh with Him, and cry with Him.  Man knew the sound of God’s voice again and even the color of His eyes.  Christ was God in the flesh.  The Creator became the created in order to execute the greatest rescue mission ever told. Sometimes it’s easy to think about the followers of Christ and become jealous, …