written by Kyndel Pirkle
When I get nervous, I poop.
It’s just a sick truth. Some people want to vomit, but not me; it’s always the other end. This is why I’m such an honest person, because if I don’t confess or tell the full truth it comes back to bite me in the butt (pun intended).
If I sin against a brother or sister in Christ and they have no knowledge of it and will most likely never find out, why is it that my spirit tugs me toward truth? What they don’t know won’t hurt them, right?
As Christians, we have an obligation toward one another. We are to hold each other accountable and share with one another in our sins (James 5:16). Proverbs 28:13 says, “People who conceal their sins will not prosper, but if they confess and turn from them, they will receive mercy.” When I stand before the Lord, I would hate for Him to say, “Kyndel, why didn’t you confess to Jesse those harsh secrets that you kept in your heart? Don’t you know that through confession comes freedom in Me?”
Though we don’t always get it right, our marriage is structurally founded on Christ and our hearts are alert to His spirit. Because of this, we find ourselves confessing a lot. I don’t want to be in the bathroom all day, so when I mess up in our marriage, I confess to Jesse how I’ve sinned against him.
Confession hurts and there is nothing I hate more than disappointing my God and my husband. However, I have full confidence in Christ and Jesse that when I confess I will be free from shame. When I confess, I lay down my pride and refuse to give in to fear in order to be humble in God’s eyes.
His bride is free from shame not because she is perfect, but because she has no fear that her lover will condemn her or shame her because of her sin. -John Piper This Momentary Marriage
Because the recipient of my confession never shames me, I am more willing to lay it down. This is how our God works, He has already forgiven us and there is no condemnation in Christ (Romans 8:1). When our marriages reflect Him and the church (Ephesians 5), confession becomes a much easier process.
If there is something that has been stirring in your heart, I encourage you to seek out peace today. Confess to God and to the person you have sinned against. When you confess, ask for forgiveness. But don’t stop there; repent and turn away from your sin. I’d encourage you to read Romans 6:12-14 and know that we are under the law of grace!
-Kyndel Pirkle serves in the Fusion ministry and is currently a student at the University of West Georgia seeking a teaching degree. She is married to Jesse and they enjoy spending time with friends, visiting new places, and above all pointing each other to Christ.