Corey and I have been married for just over 9 years. While we still have a lot to learn, we’ve picked up a few things along the way. I’d like to share 3 of these principles that wives can put into practice that have made a positive impact on our own marriage.
Thank your husband for providing for your family. When we go some place special, I make it a point to thank Corey for buying my dinner, movie ticket, or what have you. When Corey shops with me (which means I look while he sits on the “husband bench”), I’ll thank him for whatever it is I buy.
Corey and I both contribute to our household. So he didn’t buy dinner all by himself, we both paid for it. But as the husband, he feels a burden to provide and I want him to know he is doing a good job. If your husband is providing, no matter how much or little, let him know you appreciate it.
Pray for your husband (out loud). In September, Corey and I visited with his ministry mentor in Tennessee. In passing, his mentor mentioned that his wife prays out loud for him every morning. I pray for Corey on my own, but I rarely (if ever) prayed out loud for him. I made up my mind that when we got home, I would pray for Corey every morning.
That first morning came and I felt awkward. So I prayed for Corey, but only to myself. Days later, hoping it would make it less weird, I told him about it. The next morning, it still felt awkward. However, I told him I was going to do it, so I started praying… and he giggled! Yes, my husband giggled. I’ve prayed for him every morning since.
James 5:16 says, “Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” In their book “Beyond Ordinary,” Justin and Trisha Davis write, “If you want to change the climate of your marriage immediately, start praying for your spouse.” I’d challenge you to take it a step further and find a time each day to pray out loud for your husband.
Remember, you can only control yourself. Early in our marriage, Corey discovered that I have a habit of leaving my cereal bowl in the kitchen sink instead of putting it in the dishwasher. Because he can only control himself, he chose not to allow it to bother him. Instead, he saw it as an opportunity to serve me.
Whatever it is that your husband does that drives you bonkers, choose to put your marriage before your own interests and remember that you can only control yourself. Stop trying to change him and change your own attitude.
Philippians 2:3-4 says, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”
Wives, what other principles do you practice that make a positive impact in your marriage? Share in the comments!