In Ephesians 5:22-23, Paul describes what a strong marriage looks like. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the church and a wife is to submit to her husband’s leadership, as the church submits to Christ. A husband who serves his wife, leads her to a better place by putting her first. A wife, who loves and yields to her husband, strengthens her husband. The wedding day is the beginning of a life-long commitment to change and growth with one another.
My wife is such a delight. Kelli is my best friend and I would do anything for her. Our relationship is wonderful. However, that doesn’t come naturally. Naturally, we’re selfish, but we’re both willing to do the work to live out Ephesians 5.
What makes Kelli such a great wife is that she humbly does whatever hard work she can to help get us where we need to be. We talk through big decisions and standards we live by, like our budget and parenting. I consider her thoughts, her wishes, her wants, and her needs because we are a team, I love her, and greatly value her input. However, at the end of the day, she still submits to my God appointed leadership. She understands that I am the one responsible for our relationship, our family, our household, and the overall direction we move through life. I understand the weight of that responsibility and don’t take it lightly.
So it is with Christ and his bride, the church.
Jesus laid his life down for his bride. Our relationship with him forever changes who we are. We are no longer sinners, but we are now the righteousness of Christ. All he asks is that we surrender and submit ourselves to him. Then he is able to lead us to a better place. He takes us from where we are to a place we can only go with his strength.
Are you submitting to Jesus? Maybe the reason that you feel your relationship, your marriage with Christ, isn’t working is because you are trying to do life the way you want instead of submitting to Christ’s desire for your life.
What are you doing to help strengthen your relationship with Jesus? Jesus has already done his part by submitting to God the Father and dying for your sin. He is constantly trying to restore you and give you life. What are you doing on your end? Do you listen to what he has to say or do you ignore him? Do you take joy in or complain about the blessings he has given you? Do you focus more on him or yourself? What are you doing to lift him up? What are you doing to glorify the name of Jesus?
Share in the comments where you see your marriage (or other relationships) reflecting Christ’s relationship with the church.