Family, Personal Growth
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The Weave

If you’re a basketball fan then you’re probably aware of the historic season the University of Kentucky Wildcats are currently experiencing. As of this writing, they have accomplished a 38-0 record, beating teams like North Carolina, UCLA, Kansas and in-state rival Louisville.

They use an offense play called “the weave.” Its a precision passing and running drill that requires the players to respond in a certain way.  When any one player doesn’t hit their mark at the right time, the play doesn’t work! One wrong cut, one errant pass, a player moving too fast or too slow can have unwanted consequences. They have to function as a team, as one.


Sounds a lot like a marriage doesn’t it? You make a vow to your husband or wife, leave your biological family and cleave to the one whom you have made that vow. Together you “weave”  all that you have done separately into something that you now do together.

Jobs, ambitions, hobbies, traditions, expectations, moms, crazy uncles…. the list goes on. It can be a daunting task made even more complicated when we don’t communicate clearly, something happens too slow or too fast, or mistakes are made.

The key to “the weave,” whether in the game of basketball or far more importantly a marriage, is the person in the middle.

In basketball its the person in the middle who controls the success of the play. They make the first pass, the first cut and receive the ball again to continue the play until they score.

In a marriage, Christ is that person. The one whom we should begin every day with, the one who guides us through prayer and the Holy Spirit, the one who inspires the decisions we make as we go through this life one day at a time. Christ is the one who makes the two “better halves” whole!

This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. Genesis 2:24 (NLT)

What can you do this week to put God in the center? When was the last time you prayed with just your spouse and not over a meal?  What if you and your spouse started a Bible study this week? Do you know how your spouse’s relationship with Christ is fairing? Have you asked?

Take one step to put God at the center!

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I am a 1982 graduate of Kentucky Christian University and have spent the last 35 years pursuing my passion as Firefighter/ Paramedic before retiring and now serving as an Elder & Assimilation Pastor at Southern Hills Christian Church. I have been married 26 years to my love, Rita, and have two children, Madi & Eli. I'm thankful everyday for grace and forgiveness!

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  1. Jennifer Walls says

    Yet again – right on time! Thanks for the direct questions!

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